An open letter for pen pen papa &family

17 July’25 0009

Hi, pen pen papa! Heard a lot about you from Mehmuel.

Your background.

A father of 3, a granddad of 3.

What you do to earnt a living. Was a taxi driver, was a waiter, was a sailor, was captured in Indonesia for a month,

Was an impatience one, and now peace at mind and action.

Your daily routine.

a lunch together with Mehmuel at Elias Mall > Pasir Ris Mall> NTWU canteen,

Prefer a routine homecooked lunch meal like turmeric rice, salmon & porridge,

Cycling as an hobby

Prefer Guinness stout

Eat healthily and dont like tomato seed (might be a superstitious belief) & prefer olive oil.

Have girlfriend from Malaysia.

Was born in 1950, with date of birth unsured, set 31st Dec as it is.

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Hi, pen pen papa! Had an honoured to meet you twice at Pasir Ris during both Mehmuel’s birthday gathering. Karaoke twice. Dinner & Storytelling once.

I knew part of your story and family’s story better after today. 没想到 Mehmuel ” lay bare my soul” 和我說了自己的遭遇， 中学期间被霸凌， 妈妈在患癌时手脚水肿， 他请了几星期假陪伴妈妈， 和帮妈妈按摩缓解疼痛。 孝顺的他也尝试唱Christian hymn 安慰妈妈。 我听了这现实故事后沉默， 他经历了很多。

Pen pen papa 你知道吗， 我想写信或跟你说， 其实他是被时间逼着长大， 内心住着脆弱的心灵， 遭遇着与年龄不相符的悲情。 如果有天你不在了， 我不知道他会如何过。 我只希望你我的存在能帮助他暂且忘了世界的不公。 希望你能好好和他对话，聊些日常。 你是他唯一相依的亲家人， 除了大姑二姑哥哥姐姐。

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是我太多事了吗， 介入他人的人生太多了。 像是他的私人psychotherapist。 听他诉说说说知识， 他的世界观， 他的经历等。 有天当我们走出他的世界， 我望他会好好照顾自己。